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Top 5 ways to stay calm and reduce stress
Are you looking for more calm satisfying experience with you daily life?
Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?
Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.
Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings here are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings so that you will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each day.
1. Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior that you don't like and change it.At first you may not notice the feeling until after you have gone through it, that's fine.
Think about how you would rather have felt.
Think about how you would rather have handled yourself. Decide how you want to do it next time.
As you continue with this process each day you will find that you will notice more easily what you are doing throughout the day.
You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you do this.
Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing it, then stop yourself.
At some point you will be able to notice before you even begin to feel and react in the undesirable way.
Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you react to the situations in your life and change your behavior.
2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as the day goes on.
Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to get re-centered.
Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths while imagining the tension washing slowly out of your body.
Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.
Just think about your breath.
Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.
It's ok to not be actively thinking for a while!
3. Watch out for your expectations.You are setting yourself up for failure, upset and frustration when you set too many standards as to how you think things should be.
Think about what leads you to getting upset?
Why does it upset you?
Notice that you decide how many things should be, based on your own outlook and desire.
The things others do that are not to your liking, even the things you do that don't match your expectations.
Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be exactly that way
Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?
Does it matter that much?
Is it worth getting myself worked up about?
Choose which expectations are really important for you to hold on to and which ones are not.
Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life, with constant judgment.
Simplify your life and reduce the stress!
4. Delegate.This applies to your personal life as well as at work.
Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it can apply personally as well.
We are all very busy these days with our activities and duties.
Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to tension.
For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit of thinking we must do it all ourselves.
Take a look at your situation.
Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must be done perfectly to your standards?
Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you. Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?
Many times we get into habitual ruts that don't need to be as they are.
Look at what has been, with the eye of reducing the pressure on yourself.
5. Accept other people as one.As you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that separates you from others.
This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior to others which leads to judgment then selfish thinking and behavior.
We are then having an internal battle with others, which brings on fear, competition and comparison, ending in frustration and anxiety.
Look to discovering how to see yourself as one with all of mankind, not as separate.
Focus on what we have in common rather that the relatively small uniqueness.
Author BioJohn Halderman is a writer, speaker and trainer, dedicated to helping people with getting real results with their personal development efforts. He supports strategies, methods, tools and information that actually bridge the gap between information and effective results. Go to www.activepersonaldevelopment.com for free information and newsletter.
Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?
Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.
Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings here are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings so that you will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each day.
1. Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior that you don't like and change it.At first you may not notice the feeling until after you have gone through it, that's fine.
Think about how you would rather have felt.
Think about how you would rather have handled yourself. Decide how you want to do it next time.
As you continue with this process each day you will find that you will notice more easily what you are doing throughout the day.
You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you do this.
Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing it, then stop yourself.
At some point you will be able to notice before you even begin to feel and react in the undesirable way.
Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you react to the situations in your life and change your behavior.
2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as the day goes on.
Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to get re-centered.
Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths while imagining the tension washing slowly out of your body.
Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.
Just think about your breath.
Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.
It's ok to not be actively thinking for a while!
3. Watch out for your expectations.You are setting yourself up for failure, upset and frustration when you set too many standards as to how you think things should be.
Think about what leads you to getting upset?
Why does it upset you?
Notice that you decide how many things should be, based on your own outlook and desire.
The things others do that are not to your liking, even the things you do that don't match your expectations.
Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be exactly that way
Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?
Does it matter that much?
Is it worth getting myself worked up about?
Choose which expectations are really important for you to hold on to and which ones are not.
Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life, with constant judgment.
Simplify your life and reduce the stress!
4. Delegate.This applies to your personal life as well as at work.
Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it can apply personally as well.
We are all very busy these days with our activities and duties.
Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to tension.
For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit of thinking we must do it all ourselves.
Take a look at your situation.
Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must be done perfectly to your standards?
Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you. Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?
Many times we get into habitual ruts that don't need to be as they are.
Look at what has been, with the eye of reducing the pressure on yourself.
5. Accept other people as one.As you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that separates you from others.
This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior to others which leads to judgment then selfish thinking and behavior.
We are then having an internal battle with others, which brings on fear, competition and comparison, ending in frustration and anxiety.
Look to discovering how to see yourself as one with all of mankind, not as separate.
Focus on what we have in common rather that the relatively small uniqueness.
Author BioJohn Halderman is a writer, speaker and trainer, dedicated to helping people with getting real results with their personal development efforts. He supports strategies, methods, tools and information that actually bridge the gap between information and effective results. Go to www.activepersonaldevelopment.com for free information and newsletter.
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Couple caught on video having sex in Toronto subway
As reported by the Toronto Sun
When the young man and young woman began making love on a southbound University line coach around 2:30 p.m. Sunday, a disgusted passenger pressed the yellow emergency strip.
After the train's guard finished putting the brakes to their tryst, the apparently drunken pair moved onto the Spadina station platform and continued the horizontal shuffle on the tile floor — with the man's naked bottom and her naked legs caught on video by a passerby.
There are funny stories, sad stories, exciting stories, mysterious stories, and then there is just plain old dumb. The story, mentioned above, clearly falls into the dumb category. Good grief, I've heard of the Mile High Club, escapades in the back row of a nearly empty movie theatre, back seat mumbas, and the like, but 2pm-on Christmas-on the subway?? C'mon, world. Fun is fun, but this speaks to our new careless sexual natures. Contain your nasty fantasies to your bedroom, at 1 am or in the shower, like some of us. LOL... How many children to you think saw those two love birds do the Cupid's Shuttle on the subway (at 2pm). Does anyone really care about the kids, or do we just like to pretend?
In the U.S., I blame the apparent Hugh Hefner-like mentality of the F.C.C. Have you noticed the boarder-line R-rated TV commercials that seem to aire during family TV time (such as Football games). I'm not a prude...Trust me, but I really don't like explaining erectile dysfunction to my nieces and nephews, or stumbling to answer my little girl's questions regarding KY jelly. Can't a man just watch the Family Guy in peace? Ooops, bad example.
This is truly having an affect on the world. We are creating a world of over-sexed, callous, narcissistic hypocrites. And then, as Americans, we seem to have the nerve to push our dastardly way of life onto other regions. Are the Muslims sooo wrong for pointing out where America can morally improve? I saw a twelve year old girl the other day, in a restaurant. She was with her mom and was wearing make-up, high heels, and had an Iphone attached to her nose. I must've been the only person to find this odd because no one seemed to notice. I guess it's all too common place nowadays. High-heels??? Really?? C'mon, mom. Take a second to stop blaming your Ex for all your problems and teach these little girls how to be young ladies.... I'm just saying.
I'm not trying to fix the world or anything. What I'm saying isn't any sort attempt at altruism. I'm just saying, it would be nice to experience kindness and decency whenever I step out in public or watch public television. But, where do we start?
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Facebook Can Lead to Your Doom!!!
By: LA Williams
People, I implore you to not use Facebook as your personal conduit, connecting your egotistical, narcissist, bubble of an existence with the outside world. The old scripture says that "what is done in the dark will come to the light." Today, facebook inhabitors are idiotically turning the light onto their own sins and are shocked at the repercussions they incur. I'm not saying hide your sins. One should acknowledge and deal with their sins accordingly. However, sites like Facebook records your deeds and will force you to deal with these issues publicly and embarassingly.
People, I implore you to not use Facebook as your personal conduit, connecting your egotistical, narcissist, bubble of an existence with the outside world. The old scripture says that "what is done in the dark will come to the light." Today, facebook inhabitors are idiotically turning the light onto their own sins and are shocked at the repercussions they incur. I'm not saying hide your sins. One should acknowledge and deal with their sins accordingly. However, sites like Facebook records your deeds and will force you to deal with these issues publicly and embarassingly.
Pictures of your life, as it unfolds are nice, but I find it a bit over-zealous for some Facebookers to have the need to post hundreds of random pictures of themselves in the bathroom mirror...mostly for some sort of public acknowledgement. Get over yourself already... "You look good, Girl... How many times do you need us to tell you that?"
Remember, Facebook records everything. I have a friend who's been with his girlfriend for five years. Through the years, she's always presented herself as the loyal, hardworking, honorable type. The only annoying thing about her is that she tends to pass slight judgements against other people's minor indecretions. But, it was ok because she was the everything she claimed to be--honest, faithful, and eyes for only him. Well, her home computer went down a couple of months ago and recently, my friend decided to try to repair the computer himself. He was, surprisingly, successful. The computer rebooted, with all the bells and whistles. Proud of his accomplishment [guys love to play the role of hero for their girls], he pulled up tabs for her email account file and facebook account file. With pride in his voice, he joyously bellowed through the house for her to come to the computer room. As she entered, he proudly told to look at what he had accomplished for her. "Now, you can handle all your billing and computer needs, baby," he said with a smile. He asked for her email ID and password assuming she probably had hundreds of email messages needing to be addressed. Without hesitation, she gave it to him and the email account appeared. ...Smile. Moving onto the Facebook tab, he asked her for the same info, assuming she may have things and people to catch up with. After an awkward pause, she blurted out for him to just delete the page. "Why would you want to do that," he asked? "Cause Facebook only causes trouble," she replied. "Just delete the damn page," she insisted. At this point, he began to assume his angel might have something to hide. His heart rate tripled, as he insisted she have the account pulled up. Prevailing in this measure, first thing he noticed on her page were the unchecked messages. Clicking the message icon, one message stood like the purverbial red thumb. The last statement from some guy was, "..I'm sitting here whacking my meat." OMG!!! My friend nervously, slightly shouted, "WHAT THE HELL IS THAT!!!" His girlfriend quitely replied that she didn't know what that was. My friend clicked onto the full message. The message went something like this:
Guy J: so, r u going to be my girl or what?
My friend's girl: Gosh, can't we EVER just have a normal conversation. I don't know yet. Let's wait and see.
Guy J: I'll leave you alone.
My friend's girl: No, wait. I didn't say that. So, what are you doing?
Guy J: sitting here whacking my meat.
My friend, nearly in tears, asked his girl how she could do such a thing. Flipping the script, she yelled that she didn't feel like dealing with this and that he shouldn't read more into this than what is there.
Now, I'm not going to go into their insuing argument because my point is clear. Facebook records one's dastardly deeds. If not on the up-and-up, late night chats and imaginative photos can be the doom to Facebook users and their love ones. Use Facebook wisely.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Report: Rams Ready To Part Ways With Spagnuolo, McDaniels After The Season
by Ryan Van Bibber on Dec 19, 2011 3:53 PM CST
SB*NATION.NEWSLETTER
At 2-11 with each loss blurring together with the last one, the odds do not favor Steve Spagnuolo keeping his job as head coach of the St. Louis Rams. A report from the San Diego Union Tribune in November noted that team owner Stan Kroenke was already planning make changes at head coach and general manager. Today, Jason LaCanfora of the NFL Network noted something similar, saying on the air that sources told him the Rams plan to "blow things up" after the season ends.
Whether you blame the injuries, the personnel decisions, or the weather, it's pretty tough to stand by what the Rams have done this season.
Lots more after the jump...
There's no shortage of head scratching decisions with this team. Bernie Miklasz noted this morning the coaching staff's stubborn refusal to adapt the game for Sam Bradford similar to what they did with Kellen Clemens and A.J. Feeley. Not hiring a quarterbacks coach looked like a poor decision at the time because of the lockout and a new system. The defense is playing better, after 12 games, but it's notable that last year's group of outside linebackers made for a better unit than this year's group.
Other teams have handled similar injury situations, the Seattle Seahawks for instance, with aplomb. Add in the anecdotal stuff you hear about the coaching staff - e.g. Mike Karney's interview in which he noted Spags barely talks to the players during halftime, telling considering how poorly the team plays after the half - and it's pretty tough sell to keep the coach.
Finally, whether Spagnuolo's a good guy or not, it would be pretty tough to try and sell season tickets, much less get a new stadium, by bringing the same bunch back to lead the team in 2012.
Opinions aside, this is the second high profile report claiming that the Rams will make coaching changes ahead of the 2012 season.
LaCanfora's news does conflict with a report from Adam Schefter over the weekend that the Rams would like to keep McDaniels. With the changes coming in Kansas City, there's plenty of talk that McDaniels could be brought in as the offensive coordinator, where he'd be working for Scott Pioli and with Kyle Orton and Matt Cassel.
As for Spagnuolo, he could probably have his pick of defensive coordinator jobs. Many still believe he could go back to Philly, where Andy Reid once saw him as the eventual successor to Jim Johnson.
For the Rams, it's yet another coaching change, and it's more important than ever that they get it right this time.
SB*NATION.NEWSLETTER
At 2-11 with each loss blurring together with the last one, the odds do not favor Steve Spagnuolo keeping his job as head coach of the St. Louis Rams. A report from the San Diego Union Tribune in November noted that team owner Stan Kroenke was already planning make changes at head coach and general manager. Today, Jason LaCanfora of the NFL Network noted something similar, saying on the air that sources told him the Rams plan to "blow things up" after the season ends.
Whether you blame the injuries, the personnel decisions, or the weather, it's pretty tough to stand by what the Rams have done this season.
Lots more after the jump...
There's no shortage of head scratching decisions with this team. Bernie Miklasz noted this morning the coaching staff's stubborn refusal to adapt the game for Sam Bradford similar to what they did with Kellen Clemens and A.J. Feeley. Not hiring a quarterbacks coach looked like a poor decision at the time because of the lockout and a new system. The defense is playing better, after 12 games, but it's notable that last year's group of outside linebackers made for a better unit than this year's group.
Other teams have handled similar injury situations, the Seattle Seahawks for instance, with aplomb. Add in the anecdotal stuff you hear about the coaching staff - e.g. Mike Karney's interview in which he noted Spags barely talks to the players during halftime, telling considering how poorly the team plays after the half - and it's pretty tough sell to keep the coach.
Finally, whether Spagnuolo's a good guy or not, it would be pretty tough to try and sell season tickets, much less get a new stadium, by bringing the same bunch back to lead the team in 2012.
Opinions aside, this is the second high profile report claiming that the Rams will make coaching changes ahead of the 2012 season.
LaCanfora's news does conflict with a report from Adam Schefter over the weekend that the Rams would like to keep McDaniels. With the changes coming in Kansas City, there's plenty of talk that McDaniels could be brought in as the offensive coordinator, where he'd be working for Scott Pioli and with Kyle Orton and Matt Cassel.
As for Spagnuolo, he could probably have his pick of defensive coordinator jobs. Many still believe he could go back to Philly, where Andy Reid once saw him as the eventual successor to Jim Johnson.
For the Rams, it's yet another coaching change, and it's more important than ever that they get it right this time.
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